To parents: When did you feel the parental instinct kick in?

Some people know all their lives they wanna have, love and protect their kids at the expense of their own lives if necessary

Some people have kids and don’t really truly feel the instinct to love and protect after they are the kids are born.

Some people unfortunately never get it before they have kids and never have it after either. Sometimes I see parent animals protect their young till they themselves almost die. Yet humans… sometimes they aren’t as good of parents as most animals.

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RubySoo · 56-60, F

We are a big family and there was always younger kids around. I was an aunt at 14 and adored my little nephew.. and the nephews and niece that followed in quick succession. I only really thought about if id have my own when my boyfriend proposed when i was 22. I had to ask him if he wanted kids....coz i knew i did. Thankfully he did, but we waited a few years after we married. As soon i knew i was expecting i became instantly aware everything i did would impact my baby. Id have done anything to keep it safe. He was born by c section and the guilt i felt was awful. I felt failed him.

Id still fight to the death for my kids now they are in their 20s.

Montanaman · M

@RubySoo That's the most important thing. That's why i can't wrap my head around her leaving my babies. Just walked away like they don't matter. But...she took her dog.😔💔

NiftyWhite · 46-50, F

@RubySoo why did you feel you failed him? I don’t understand. My mom had us allllll by c section and I don’t see the connection.

RubySoo · 56-60, F

@NiftyWhite because it was an energency...my body wasnt doing its job properly. I was put under for the birth and hubs wasnt allowed in. I was prerty traumatised to be honest. I had no clue something like that could happen.
I dudnt even meet him til he was about 6 hours old and he was 12 hours before i held him. 🙁

RubySoo · 56-60, F

@Montanaman huh?? 😯

Montanaman · M

@RubySoo my daughter in law left my son and their kids while we went away on vacation. 😔💔

RubySoo · 56-60, F

@Montanaman aww hunni...im so sorry to hear that. Maybe shes depressed? I hope it all gets resolved and she gets herself straight and back where she belongs xx

Montanaman · M

@RubySoo Thank you. I don't know what the future will bring, but my son is an amazing loving father and we're there for all of them like never before. 🤗💞💞