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Would you have a baby for someone else and raise that child with generous financial support from the father who doesn’t want daily responsibilities but does want a child?

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caccoon · 36-40

And give up my own life? Fuck no.

SW-User

@caccoon you don't like babies or kids? Just wondering

caccoon · 36-40

@SW-User I do, but I don't want one and I wouldn't for all of the financial support in the world because I would lose my freedom to do what I want when I want

SW-User

@caccoon i see, I have a daughter and yeah it's a huge responsibility, but other than that I haven't felt that affects my life in terms of freedom much, but yeah I'm thankful that she's in my life even if I thought I wouldn't have kids.

Haha but the case he mentions is different, makes me question myself about lots of things
I enjoy seeing how people think

caccoon · 36-40

@SW-User I think it would affect my life a lot, seeing my friends with young kids and how it impacts their careers and what they love doing

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@caccoon mm some are able to manage well, but yeah, it's not for everyone, and some sacrifices are nessesary, lots of responsibilities too.

caccoon · 36-40

@SW-User I admire the task but wouldn't do it myself 😊

StevetheSleeve · 31-35, M

@SW-User I think a big part of this question is a guy trying to avoid most of those sacrifices. Except financially. He would still be a part of the child’s life without the day-to-day responsibilities. I agree with some who say it shows selfishness but it would also give him a child to love and watch grow.

caccoon · 36-40

@StevetheSleeve if you're not there for the dirty, sad and awful parts. The crying, shitting, sickness, tantrums... Then they're not really yours. You haven't done the hard stuff

SW-User

@StevetheSleeve but how often would you see him? Why not being part of the family?

StevetheSleeve · 31-35, M

@SW-User The guy and woman would need to reach agreement beforehand on the extent of his part in the child’s life. Why not be part of a family? That would be something he didn’t want for whatever reason. Like cocoon says, it’s dodging the hardest parts.

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@StevetheSleeve some fathers seem to be in the same house of the kid but it's as if they weren't there even being (part of the family)

StevetheSleeve · 31-35, M

@SW-User Yeah, that’s a sad situation. And other fathers just try to get out of all responsibilities. At least in this case the father would value and support the child.