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Is it ever reasonable to date a woman just so she can have kids?

I know her for quite a while now, and she waited until my graduation to tell me that she wanted to have kids some day. I've asked her before, but she said she preferred her job life. And now that I saw her fail one relationship after the other because she hardly gets to know these guys, I'd think "a stable man could not only support her but also raise kids with her".

Now it was her who gave up on me after I took almost 4 years for graduating and finding a career. I've seen parents with disabled kids, because either the mother or the father was in their late 30s. And because it's not her fault, I'd think about advising her into having kids rather now than later. In addition, I wonder how many men she talked to about having kids if she told me when we knew each other for over 3 years already.

Aside from a stable job, would it be a wise decision to offer fatherhood to her kids because there's likely noone else willing?
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Roadsterrider · 56-60, M
Are you okay with knowing that your children may be fatherless or raised by someone who doesn't care for them? Are you okay with the fact that once your name is on the birth certificate, there is a potential to be financially responsible for them for the next 20 years? It is possible that she could take legal action for support or if something happened to her that you could be saddled with the children to raise.

For me it would be a definite no.
SatanBurger · 36-40, F
@Roadsterrider Even if the kid isn't their biological kid, if he's living with her and provides support for her children, the court will recognize that and bring him in for child support.
Roadsterrider · 56-60, M
@SatanBurger This is true, a guy has to work in his own best interests and safety. Society is stacked against against men when it comes to support.
SatanBurger · 36-40, F
@Roadsterrider Yeah I'm sure there's ways to protect yourself if you want to be with a single mother but I'm not sure how. I've heard of prenups and stuff but I am not familiar with how to protect yourself while dating.. so I'll stay away from that.

I just know that it's a little leery she's specifically telling him she wants a father, bouncing around from relationship to relationship. It's a good idea to remind men that they can still get taken for child support if he decides not to be in her life.
Roadsterrider · 56-60, M
@SatanBurger Bouncing around from guy to guy indicates a little bit of crazy involved already. Sometimes a little crazy is fun, most of the time it is just more drama. I would avoid her totally.
SatanBurger · 36-40, F
@Roadsterrider Exactly. The people I know who bounce around from relationship to relationship have emotional issues. Guys like them because they give them a roller coaster ride with their emotions but that's before the fun stops.