Teen troubles
I'd like some input, opinions and ideas.
I have a 16 y/o son. Hes not your average kid. He is incredibly gifted and talented. He was a varsity runner, a straight A ap student and an advanced professional level pianist amongst other amizing things. He is also a friendly, helpful fun person with a huge personality.
2020 was very hard for him, isolation mixed with family separating, some medical issues that destroyed his dreams and hitting puberty did not go well for him. He quit caring about school and lost his life long goals. He quit running, is failing more than a couple classes and has turned into a cocky and arrogant ass. Nothing is his fault and nothing is his problem. His goal was to go to west point, he got diagnosed with scoliosis and damaged one of his eyes in a car wreck so it's unlikely that he would qualify now. At west point he wanted to major in electrical engineering and minor in space science. He wanted to get into the space industry and work for a company like SpaceX. Now he wants to work in a despinsary. The only thing he hasnt quit is playing the piano. It's his solace, his meditation and really the only thing that seams to matter to him anymore.
I dont know what to do. I ground him, take away his phone, revoke driving privileges and it has no impact. He just doesn't care. I've been considering options like military boarding school but am not sure if that's just to far. I want him to find himself and either remember his goals or find new ones.
I try to communicate and be empathetic and encouraging. I get the same ya, ya I will try harder then nothing.
Please help.
I have a 16 y/o son. Hes not your average kid. He is incredibly gifted and talented. He was a varsity runner, a straight A ap student and an advanced professional level pianist amongst other amizing things. He is also a friendly, helpful fun person with a huge personality.
2020 was very hard for him, isolation mixed with family separating, some medical issues that destroyed his dreams and hitting puberty did not go well for him. He quit caring about school and lost his life long goals. He quit running, is failing more than a couple classes and has turned into a cocky and arrogant ass. Nothing is his fault and nothing is his problem. His goal was to go to west point, he got diagnosed with scoliosis and damaged one of his eyes in a car wreck so it's unlikely that he would qualify now. At west point he wanted to major in electrical engineering and minor in space science. He wanted to get into the space industry and work for a company like SpaceX. Now he wants to work in a despinsary. The only thing he hasnt quit is playing the piano. It's his solace, his meditation and really the only thing that seams to matter to him anymore.
I dont know what to do. I ground him, take away his phone, revoke driving privileges and it has no impact. He just doesn't care. I've been considering options like military boarding school but am not sure if that's just to far. I want him to find himself and either remember his goals or find new ones.
I try to communicate and be empathetic and encouraging. I get the same ya, ya I will try harder then nothing.
Please help.
41-45, F
