Does one need parents in their life?

I've got a father who is continually judgmental and also, possibly bi-polar without taking any medication or seeing any psychiatrist. My mother is better, but also sensitive and too overly-cautious (sometimes, even too negative).

They have good hearts, but as parents, it seems like they are not good. They help me with financial issues when they arise, but it feels like one of those abusive relationships, ya know? Where there are too many mental issues clouding what the emotions are.

I guess I am trying to ask is if do I have to be in touch with them for the rest of their lives? I am the only child and I know what I am asking, I'm just frustrated and feeling like every time I am around them, I am not my best self.

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UreBesFrend · M

They are probably worried about you and not sure how to help, we all have to take responsibility for our own lives at some point, and your financial needs are not following this plan. When they get old they may need you to support them, are you going to do that?

LysanderFremont · 36-40, M

They helped me out before, financially. This was before I got the job I have now and all.

They are both retired and have a house with two dogs. They are set as far as I know.

We've had a difficult history. Being a kid, listening to ma and pa fight, yell, scream at each other for just the smallest of details. Kids pick up a lot and when you are the only child...it can make things difficult.