Does one need parents in their life?

I've got a father who is continually judgmental and also, possibly bi-polar without taking any medication or seeing any psychiatrist. My mother is better, but also sensitive and too overly-cautious (sometimes, even too negative).

They have good hearts, but as parents, it seems like they are not good. They help me with financial issues when they arise, but it feels like one of those abusive relationships, ya know? Where there are too many mental issues clouding what the emotions are.

I guess I am trying to ask is if do I have to be in touch with them for the rest of their lives? I am the only child and I know what I am asking, I'm just frustrated and feeling like every time I am around them, I am not my best self.

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firefall · 61-69, M

I moved out of my house at 17 when I started college, and I moved to another country, then another continent, as soon as I could manage it. 12000 miles is a good distance from parents, then you can appreciate their good points better.

LysanderFremont · 36-40, M

I am hoping they can appreciate my good points as well. But even going through the military does not change their mind. They still see me as a kid.

firefall · 61-69, M

@LysanderFremont: Yeah, I'd say its well overdue for a longterm/permanent separation by distance, if you can manage it. If they haven't changed yet, they probably wont, so keeping the irritation and annoyance of it to a minimum seems the wisest choice.

LysanderFremont · 36-40, M

@firefall: I am on one side of the US while they are on the other. Yet, on the phone and FB, we are still connected and it is frustrating. They want to keep in contact like once a week and I'm just like "No".

It really is bothersome.