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Parents: Would you change your work schedule (if you could) to save your kid from the school bully?

When I was a kid (about 7 years old), my mother used to drop me off at my school at about 7:30am every weekday. The school bully arrived by limo at around the same time or earlier. The staff, janitor, and teachers (and most of the other kids) arrived at around 8:00 AM. That allowed the bully to pick on me for a while first thing every school morning.

If you've read my Featured story here, , you know that my abusive crazy mother was not very protective of me. So when I begged her to let me go to school a half hour later she answered, "NOOO!!! I will NOT allow you to make me late for work!!!". Maybe I should mention that my mother was the director of a large cooperative nursery school. In other words, SHE was the boss! She could've decided to arrive a few minutes later if she'd wanted to. I guess I could also mention that she was an acclaimed child development person that gave parenting seminars in which she urged gentle non-violent parenting to her hundreds of enthusiastic followers who mostly worshipped her.

So...would you change your schedule to help your kid avoid the school bully? Or do you think it's better to encourage your kid to keep fighting that bully?
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DearAmbellina2113 · 41-45, F
I probably wouldn't. Kids need to learn actual coping skills before adulthood, and that includes learning how to defend or deflect against assholes. If the kid was being actually assaulted in a way more serious than just being pushed a little, I'd consider it.
greenmountaingal · 70-79, F
@DearAmbellina2113 I'd been to the Emergency hospital twice. And no one was teaching me how to how to fight or defend myself.
DearAmbellina2113 · 41-45, F
@greenmountaingal the bully's parents should have been fined. Maybe it would motivate them to teach their kids NOT to bully.

I just don't like helicopter parenting. I think it does more harm than good.
greenmountaingal · 70-79, F
@DearAmbellina2113 Part of the problem was that the bully's parents were very rich; her dad owned department stores, hotels and resorts. Her mother was a famous retired model. And the school was a private school that charged tuition assessed by income level. Fining them would have not made much difference in their lives. And I believe the school needed the money as well.
DearAmbellina2113 · 41-45, F
@greenmountaingal that's how it often goes.