My mother always brings my step dad everywhere is that normal ?

I’m almost 30 and my mother will not hang out with me without her husband my step parent. She brings him everywhere. She is able body to drive and more healthy than him, he’s like 400 lbs over weight on oxygen and he should be home resting. Sometimes I just want to hangout with her and do things with her but she always. She always said when I was in another state that she wanted a better relationship with me and wanted to do mother daughter things. She always put a man before her kids all my life. Sometimes I want to hangout with her and my son. Idk how to handle this because I think my mom wants me to say something so she can accuse me of starting things or drama. She acts like she is scared to face her children alone and she knows when he is around we don’t feel comfortable talking to her or saying personal things. I kinda don’t want to hangout with her anymore if I have to sit in the back seat like a child and be the 3rd wheel to her husband. I don’t have a problem with him at all but I feel like mothers and daughters should be close and do things and go on trips together with the grandkids but every time my mom is with me she has to rush and worry about her grown 10 years younger husband who is a weirdo.

DudeistPriest · M

Interesting how something similar happened between my sister and mother. They'd been estranged from each other forever and rarely spoke due to past grievances, but when they did see each other my sister made sure her disabled and overweight boyfriend was there every time which really bothered my mother. Sort of like an chaperone.

Anyway, your situation seems a bit different and sounds more like she's afraid he may have an attack and she won't be there. You really should address this with her; the fact that you miss private time with her and are obviously uncomfortable about him. Good luck.