I'm sorry 🤗 your mother should be less selfish and more attentive to you. She probably has low self esteem, thus it's wrong to make a random guy happy but not invest in your own daughter. That guy and her can be over but a daughter is forever

Interesting how something similar happened between my sister and mother. They'd been estranged from each other forever and rarely spoke due to past grievances, but when they did see each other my sister made sure her disabled and overweight boyfriend was there every time which really bothered my mother. Sort of like an chaperone.

Anyway, your situation seems a bit different and sounds more like she's afraid he may have an attack and she won't be there. You really should address this with her; the fact that you miss private time with her and are obviously uncomfortable about him. Good luck.

An escapist who is unable to face reality describes her best. You see him as a burden, since he hasn't gelled with the family, and hence she is playing a dual act of treating him separately. Be upfront and ask for private outing.

i know this post is really old but everything about this screams domestic violence. how is she doing now? is she okay?