Family you don't hear from

How do y'all handle a family member who you hear from only when they want something.

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DeWayfarer · 61-69, M

I don't know your situation. Yet with me it worked both ways. If you don't reach out to them, don't ask about them, don't invite them and make them apart of the family, instead of a second class acquaintance, then why should they bother?

Linne5 · F

@DeWayfarer that's the opposite of what I did. They stayed nights at my house I took them places even paid for it because they mother's never did nothing for them. My two nieces anyway. But as soon after they turned 18 they just decided to completely cut me from their lives and now treat me like I don't exist.

DeWayfarer · 61-69, M

@Linne5 is that the same with the rest of the family? I mean both ways, you and other family members or them and other family members? With me I was third person out my whole life on the whole family.

Linne5 · F

@DeWayfarer yes it's the same with my siblings. I was the different one in the family.

DeWayfarer · 61-69, M

@Linne5 then unfortunately you might have to break it off.

It's sad. It's hurtful. Yet you just can't tolerate that kind of behavior. You can't remain the victim. That's what I was forced to do with the whole family. They just wouldn't treat me the same as they treated each other.

Sometimes being a half sibling just is not easy. 😔

Being a different religion now (not growing up) doesn't make it any easier. Yet growing up was the start of the problem.

Linne5 · F

@DeWayfarer I've broke off contact from them years ago. I still talk with my parents but no contact with siblings and two nieces

DeWayfarer · 61-69, M

@Linne5 Both my parents were dead before I broke it off from my half siblings.

I am the only one of four that would take care of either of mine and their parents before they past on.

My father I can understand, he wasn't their father. Our mother though I don't!

Now the eldest half sister is dead and the other two didn't bother to tell me, nor did any of my 8 nieces or nephews. I found out through ancestry.com six months ago that she was dead 5 years ago. 🤷🏻‍♂️

My eldest half sisters eldest son is on ancestry.com. He knows I am there just as I know he is there. Ancestry.com notifies you when someone on your family tree is on their tree.

Nothing has changed. 😔

Linne5 · F

@DeWayfarer nothing is going to change with my immediate family I came to terms with that years ago. I've accepted my differences from them and moved on.