Why are most courts on a women’s side when it comes to deadbeat parents?

There are fathers that have custody of their children, but when a mother has custody why is the father almost always held 100% financially responsible. For instance if a woman leaves her husband for her boyfriend and takes the children, they live together, neither works, they get on food stamps. The father of the children is held by the state and the court 100% responsible and now owes the state 100% of all state help including all food stamps even though her boyfriend ate the food also. Why is the woman not held responsible for at least half and why doesn’t the state and or the court take into consideration the boyfriends benefiting from the state support. Where are the equal rights? Thoughts?

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indyjoe · 56-60, M

I am not trying to start a war here, but the courts unfortunately DO still tend to favor women. When My Ex-wife cheated on me repeatedly and I went to a lawyer to start divorce proceedings, here is what I was told...I had a clear cut case and there was no doubt that divorce should be granted because of infidelity, however I was advised NOT to file against her because the lawyer said he had seen it backfire too many times and the woman com out smelling like a rose. I was advised that it would be in my best interest to let her file and then he related an incident he was involved in (he didn't give sensitive information like names) where a woman ran off with a lover and even abandoned her kids, and the courts gave her half his property as well as ordered him to pay her alimony. He was on disability and still had to raise those kids himself and she was never ordered to pay child support. Anyway, the bottom line was that the courts still tend to favor women over men, it's changing but it's still got a long way to go. Had I not taken his advice and sued her for divorce, she could have destroyed me instead of just cause the damage she did.