How can you be so selfish even to your own daughter? 💔💙😓

Yes I know , but he has a choice to seek a professional help. But he refused to ask for help. That’s why it’s selfish kind of a situation. I am still depressed from my miscarriage, but I keep fighting it,and asked for help because I have a child to look after.@LyricalOne

@Bittersweet84 How severe is his depression? Is he able to get out of bed, work, interact with others? Does he have people to look after? A history of depression? Sometimes those who are depressed are of the mindset that others are better off without them.

He is able to get out of bed. He is unreliable in regards with looking after our daughter(doing school runs). . He refuses to interact to people. He doesn’t want to talk to anybody. Even to me and my daughter. He doesn’t have a job at the moment, and I am the only one, who earns a living. I stopped talking to him because anything triggers him, he becomes aggressive. I have decided for him to go back to the UK, as me and my daughter feels unsafe, with him around. I can’t assess how severe as initially he was diagnosed with bipolar disorder , 10 years ago. But that was not really properly looked at as health service in the UK was not really clear about options for therapy for him. I remember years ago, they were just prescribing lots of medicines, for him not to get out of bed. Then he stopped medication and decided to go back to work.@LyricalOne

@Bittersweet84 Yes, you must protect your daughter and yourself, that is of course first and foremost. Did he have any reaction to being told that he’ll be without the two of you when he goes back to the UK?

Yes, he went hysterical and cried as I don’t want to move back there again. In the last 10 years we kept on moving back there for like 6 times already because he gets bored living in the same place. I don’t want to move as I feel sorry for my daughter, having to move schools all the time because his dad wanted us to. He thinks that by moving all the time, it can make him happy. So I said,he needs to get well, this time, it will be without me and my daughter.@LyricalOne So sad, but I can’t cope anymore. We need peace.

@Bittersweet84 It’s a very difficult situation but it sounds like you’re doing exactly the right thing for yourself and your daughter. Hopefully your decision to separate will be the impetus for him to seek help but regardless, you must do what you have to as a mother. I wish you all the very best.

Thank you@LyricalOne . I hope that he could his life sorted. So that we can all get on with our lives.