Why do some people try making parents feel bad for being single?

When many single parents are happy along with their children?
SN: There's no glory in putting other people down so you might feel superior.

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StokedFox · 36-40, F

I've been on the receiving end of this for years. Or they think you're miserable. I'm actually happier than I've ever been. Broke and busy, but happy :)

zeeva70 · F

@StokedFox Right! Yesterday I had a conversation with a pastor who'd made assumptions about my being a single parent, "I can't imagine how hard it is and what you go through." I told him being a parent (married or single) is hard.

Then I proceeded to tell him for me, being single is in fact easier because I don't have to contend with the personality of a spouse, just my daughter's. Then he reflected how his daughters would trianglate between him and his wife. I don't have that problem. I also shared although my daughter and I have had some problems, we're a team and she knows she's loved.

StokedFox · 36-40, F

@zeeva70 YES! It is hard but I thought it was harder when I was married! We still get along but when the three of us are together, none of us really enjoy ourselves. I think parents not being together all the time is maybe the way it should be. Works out better for most that I've seen.

zeeva70 · F

@StokedFox Good for you!

Although I tried, I don't get along with my ex and I don't lose and sleep over it at all. Been there. Done that. And I've earned the joy I have. Our daughter is happy too, with no more of the questions she had when she was younger. I think it's up to each of us to carve out our own happiness.