Encouragement. If you really want to go the extra mile for her you can offer to help her with the child when she needs the help. As for needles and hospitals, lot of people are going for at home births, don’t think there’s many needles if any but the pain is worse without an epidural. On a side note if she has the baby in a hospital and gets the epidural do not let her see the needle she’d probably freak out, it’s huge and goes right in your spine.

Fear is a natural part of our survival instincts. Reassure her that women her age have been having babies since the beginning of time. As for the father if he's not willing to be a constant and helpful partner move on without him. When she finds a man who loves her he will love her child too. Good luck and enjoy being the favorite aunt. 😃