Question for those who get into relationships with someone with a child:

So, I don't know if I'm just overthinking this or not. But do you refer to the child as your own? Or your step child?

I feel like referring to them as your step child is too impersonal after you've already formed a bond with them, but I don't want to refer to them as my child because I just don't want to answer all the questions that come along with it. I don't want to explain that actually they're not my blood child when just referring to them as a step child answers all those questions.

Am I overthinking this? Lol

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SW-User

I have 2 stepsons from my marriage and still keep in contact with them though I've been divorced from their mother for 7 years.

I've referred to them as both and they've called me dad as they're biological father was never around.

They are mine in every sense other than on paper as I was there through their formative years. I was going to adopt them but we split up before.

However each situation is different perhapd ask your partner for their thoughts on this.

Zer0Point · 36-40, F

@SW-User Thank you. That makes perfect sense. I'm glad to hear that you were that close with the children :)