Talking to my 14 year old foster daughter that I literally met not even an hour ago...

She wasn't being too kind towards me, which I completely understand and it's okay, but I told her I know her and her brother has had to move around a lot, it sucks and it's scary and I told her she can trust me, and she said, "no. You're wrong. I can't trust anybody. The ONLY person who has not left my side, is my brother and I've had to be his mom and protector for 6 years.. nobody gives a shit about me, and nobody gives a shit about him except for me." That right there broke my freaking heart.

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PunishedJenny · 56-60, F Best Comment

God bless you for taking her in. I hope you show her all the love in the world and that she IS wanted and IS special and that you're there to help her in any way you can

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PunishedJenny · 56-60, F

I can't imagine how disheartening that would be for them and at such a young age. Growing up is trial enough and without a stable and loving home life it would be so difficult.

People like you are a Godsend for being a rock, an anchor and a beacon of hope for these children.

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stick57 · 70-79, M

@Candace thank you for helping them

PunishedJenny · 56-60, F

@Candace Well Candace, although you cannot undo the pain and hurt they have experienced you can but hope to blunt the edges and sublimate it by wrapping it in a cocoon of love. Provide a refuge and a listening ear and they WILL love you for it. Maybe not in the short-term, but later in life for certain.

Snuffy1957 · 61-69, M

@Candace just keep loving them and all of their pain will be nothing more than a bad memory...

annamarie65 · 56-60, F

@Candace i applaud you for what you do...i could never foster children, i could only adopt....if i wanted to go that way that is...

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annamarie65 · 56-60, F

@Candace oh i know...i couldnt handle giving a child up that i have fallen in love with...i could never put them back into the system ...especially since the system is against them.

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annamarie65 · 56-60, F

@Candace it is wrong for the system to keep shuffing them off from one to another, why not leave them in one home...till they are adopted instead of doing that to them...it is no wonder they have issues in school and in life, without ever getting to trust or love someone as they should be allowed to do....