When I was adopted I was scared ... afraid that someone mean who take me to hurt me like my biologic father did . I was 11. But my adoptive parents gave me somebody to love . It took a while to warm up to them even though I had known them for a while before I escaped from my father. She’s broken , But you know that . Let’s hope love will heal them

When I was three, I lived in a pretty close knit neighborhood. Basically, where everyone looked out for each other in a way. It was late evening, and I was at a friends house. There was a couple there visiting who just got married, and were on their way to Hawaii to spend their lives together. The woman knew that I didn't live there, got concerned about my being there so late with no one looking for me, she was told that my mother was always at the bar, and didn't really take care of me. So, this newly married couple went to her and told her what they were doing and that they would like to take me with them. My bio mother was elated that she didn't have to take care of me anymore. So, I went with them and was legally adopted by the age of 7. I just recently found out that my bio mother was about to send me off to India to live in a religious commune.

Everyday, I am grateful for this woman who took me under her wing. She is an amazing woman who has been my mom for the last 47 years!

Understandable, as I've been there. Makes me wonder just how many foster homes they've been in. At least she and her brother are still together, that's important. May take a little while to form a trustworthy relationship with her, but don't stop trying. All you can really do is offer her the love that only a parent can.

He drew a circle that shut me out-
Heretic , rebel, a thing to flout.
But love and I had the wit to win:
We drew a circle and took him In !

From the poem " Outwitted
Edwin Markham

Give her time show her you can be trusted but it will take time and it cant be rushed

That's not surprising that she feels that way

My prayers are with you. I have experience with foster kids from my family/community.

I don't know if I'd be any use, but willing to chat if ya want. Shoot me a message if want to.

I hope that you can change that. It can happen over time. As you prove it to them. I was in foster care as a child too and my younger sister.

That’s heart breaking.😕 It’s gonna take a lot for her to be able to trust someone but it’s possible if no one gives up on her.

tough life going from home to home, never having anywhere permanent

Young broken heart protecting her own

😢Poor girl.

Good luck

it will take time to win her over but just be a mother to her and give it time

Are you confident that she will become friends with your oldest?

I have heard about the horror stories that foster kids go through. She may have been through a lot give her time and maybe she'll warm up to you?

Sorry, I'm not very helpful but please continue to love and support her and her brother