I am almost 36 weeks pregnant and I am still not getting over not wanting others to hold the baby when she gets here.

@EllaDisenchanted thank you! Yes i do think its bonding time in that period...i know i will be critized for it...its so normal for people to automatically assume they can hold your child ...or to expect you to want the same things as them witbout concidering you might have different boundaries ....

@WildwoodFlower Very much so.Most of my clients hire me on referrals from past clients because I will follow their preferences and standards,within reason,or hold their kids to standards. One of the biggest problems I have is from random peole,not the kids.

I'm a huge believer in letting kids be innocent to adult stupidity as far as their age goes. So I teach them when adults are using adult language or screaming at each other to walk away or cover their ears. grownups will see it fron across the room then come and berate me because they think the kids are the rude ones for protecting themselves from disgusting talk in public.

People will try to impose ideals on you when they have no right to.Just do what you do and be firm about boundaries.

@EllaDisenchanted thank you! You are right. I have a good relationship with my family in law...eventhough my mother in law can be a little overbearing at times...i know her heart is always in the right place but to be honest...im afraid she will be over excited and not respect my boundaries. I try to talk to my husband all the time....its her first grandchild...she is a good person but she doesnt consider the fact that others may have different boundaries ....

@WildwoodFlower You can also come from a health angle too. The first 6 weeks are the most vulnerable to the immune system and the whole passing a kid around to strengthen immunity is not true. So that might help as excuse.

@EllaDisenchanted ive been reading that a lot and i may use that as an excuse...its just going to be hard for me because everyone is so close but i dont want to do anything i am not comfortable with...

@WildwoodFlower Being upfront and polite usually does go a long way. Just make sure you do let others have time after a while. Going overly protective is as bad as not at all.

@EllaDisenchanted yes i get what you mean. Well its not like i dont want others to hold her up untill she ia not a baby anymore. Its just for the firsf few weeks...i dont want to be overpretective but i do want my boundaries for the first weeks and for then to be respected...