Would you ever forgive your parents if they have abuse you?

I can't say I was abused per se (I wasn't beaten or sexually molested). But I feel as if I was neglected. I am my parent's only natural child. My mother had severe complications which resulted I'm my being born a month later than I was supposed to have been and her not being able to have any more kids. They adopted another son and he became their "golden child", I was pretty much pushed to the back which has carried on to this day. It's too long a story to go into here. To top it all off...my father made a sexual pass at my wife. He "invited" her to tag along with him while he checked on a neighbor's house he was looking after and while there tried to get her to show him her breasts. She was afraid to tell me about it but thought it was something I needed to know. I confronted him with it and he admitted to doing it and said he was sorry (but I feel it was sort of half hearted and that he was more sorry he was caught). I have been struggling for years to build some kind of relationship with them and I decided to forgive but it hasn't been easy at all. It only further strained my relationship with them and so I don't know what the final out come will be. It's a constant struggle within myself... trying to move past it all yet there are always reminders. I just keep trying to take the higher road and put it in the past...let bigones be bigones and move on. LIke I said, it's not easy.

They did and I have, because forgiveness was for me, not for them. However, I have very limited contact with them. Forgiveness does not mean a lack of consequences and healthy boundaries.

I feel deep sadness now for that woman who beat me almost every day. She had no clue how to be a Mother. She was an angry little girl till the day she died. I forgive her and pity her

They did, and I forgave them, for my sake.
Holding it against them hurts you more than it hurts anyone else.

I didn't

I did.

My mother emotionally abused me and still does. Yet I still keep in contact with her and be pleasant to her, mostly so I can still visit my Dad. Inside somewhere I cant fully forgive her as she knows what shes doing dispite having Borderline personality disorder. A sister of my mum told me about that.

I can’t say my parents abused me, but I was their first child and they made some mistakes. I think I’m closer to my father because he acknowledges he would’ve done some things differently. Mom’s attitude has been “we did the best we knew how”, subject closed. For the last 20 years we’ve gotten along beautifully and they been there whenever I needed them, and I’ve been there for them as well.

nope, i mean if i wanted to kill a old woman after finding out she couldnt take care of me & other babies safety & health properly in a nursery why would i

It's really up to the child.

But Vengeance is a bitter pill.

Better to mend it and forgive.

eh, they're all dead and when they weren't they were miserable.


karma.

It's an arbitrary question , it didn't happen

I've forgiven my mom.

Should I? Nah.

I would

yes

I did.