DISRESPECTFUL ADULT CHILDREN?

Might have made my uncle hate me for calling him out on his rudeness with my grandmother...but somebody's gotta say something. Both my uncles live with my grandparents and have terrible mental health and drug/alcohol problems AND are absolutely disgustingly RUDE! No appreciation for anything or anyone. It breaks my heart and my grandparents just arnt assertive enough to call them out on their BS and deal with it. I don't want to see them being bullied, I don't want to see my nanny's self esteem shatter-but I do every time I'm there. Please friends I could really use some advice on this one...do I try and help? Is there any way to help people who just don't want it? Can my grandparents sanity be saved? How do you deal with adult kids?

WeighedDown · 41-45, M

Depends on why they are adult kids in the first place, I'm one but years of sexual abuse and torture kinda stunned my emotional development. I guessing these two don't have an issue like mine, so Idk what you should do, I would point out that Nanny does alot for them and she don't have too, I would confront them and make them feel two inches tall