Should I stay or should I go?

We are both in our early 30’s
I make decent money. He makes $10 an hour. He needs to go back to school and in my opinion he hasn’t been motivated enough to change anything and it’s taking him way to long to figure out what he wants to do. He wants to get me pregnant... I don’t want to have a kid and be the one responsible for everything on my own- financially and most likely doing most work... and he is supposed to be gone for 1-2 years to go to school. I’m so tired of it all. He wont clean anything unless I tell him to do it. It’s like having a teenager, not a partner. I’m tired of having a husband who can’t get his shit together and who I have to take care of financially. I can do so much better.

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ColonelFlytrap · 70-79, M Best Comment

You could fix him, with tremendous effort and many hard feelings, angry fights, that will eventually kill your love. He is now displaying his true self. If that self is unacceptable, then stop accepting it. If he is not compensating for what he will not do - housekeeping, cooking, etc. - by being a significant financial contributor, then he does not understand sharing responsibility; many men in the entitled age do not. And having a baby will just be one more responsibility for you, a trap to hold a slave.

It sounds like time to leave this boy and find a man, or find the strong woman inside you and live alone. Many girls dream all their early years about their wedding, and never look one week beyond that to their marriage. Do that now. There are men out there

Olhuveli · 36-40, F

@ColonelFlytrap Thank you for your reply. I’m not getting pregnant. Thankfully I have an IUD.
I don’t know where these men are. I don’t know any trustworthy, hard working men who are single. I lived alone for 5 years and was quite happy. I think I will be better off never getting married again.