Should I stay or should I go?

We are both in our early 30’s
I make decent money. He makes $10 an hour. He needs to go back to school and in my opinion he hasn’t been motivated enough to change anything and it’s taking him way to long to figure out what he wants to do. He wants to get me pregnant... I don’t want to have a kid and be the one responsible for everything on my own- financially and most likely doing most work... and he is supposed to be gone for 1-2 years to go to school. I’m so tired of it all. He wont clean anything unless I tell him to do it. It’s like having a teenager, not a partner. I’m tired of having a husband who can’t get his shit together and who I have to take care of financially. I can do so much better.

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BrianWatson · 31-35, M

If it's a simple financial matter, the decision seems simple enough. Dump the bastard.

Olhuveli · 36-40, F

@BrianWatson it’s not just about finances. He is comfortable depending on me. He even offered to be a stay at home dad. I feel used. He is also pretty selfish with day to day things... recent example- I came home from work at 7:30 pm. He went to shower at 6:30, used up all the hot water. He was home all day. It’s always like that. I know it seems small but I always think about him before I do something. He thinks about himself.

BrianWatson · 31-35, M

@Olhuveli He does would lazy and selfish, and you probably can do much better. Good luck.

Wiseacre · F

@Olhuveli in that case: DTMFA!

ColonelFlytrap · 70-79, M

@Olhuveli so he graciously offered to sit around the house and not work? Are you ready to leave your children with this selfish lout? If he does not consider you, he will not consider them either.

Olhuveli · 36-40, F

@ColonelFlytrap the worst part is that I bought a house and paid for all closing costs, appliances etc from my own savings. His name is on the mortgage. I assume he will want half. This is what I get for being dumb.

ColonelFlytrap · 70-79, M

@Olhuveli i did too, twice. I thought i could change the first, but no. The second was perfect, but she changed. I have no idea what it would be like to have a partner - sounds great. But i know what it feels like to carry a deadbeat, and it sucks. Get out if you dan before it id too late. What did he do to deserve half?

Olhuveli · 36-40, F

@ColonelFlytrap he did nothing. I helped him pay off his dumb credit card debt while paying mortgage and buying him food. He doesn’t deserve anything but he will get it if he wants to because we were married when I bought this house. I’m so mad at myself.

ColonelFlytrap · 70-79, M

@Olhuveli if you are in a community property state. Do what i should have done, consult a lawyer.