Is it okay for a man to leave state while his baby is on the way?

What are your thoughts on a father leaving his baby's mother and unborn not long before the due date? To be putting himself first in that situation- under any circumstance in that particular area. Real thoughts and genuine feedback would be appreciated.

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Curiousguy833 · 31-35, M

It's easy to say that there is no excuse but to be honest sometimes shits happens (work, unexpected situations etcs) the real question is how hard is he working to be there?

Glothic · 26-30, F

@Curiousguy833 Oh of course, yet unfortunately that is not the case.

Curiousguy833 · 31-35, M

True, there are guys who are not interested kids in anyway or have not even sorted out their own priorities yet that they are not real or this.

I would have thought that we could spot that kind of vibe from people early on? Maybe it's just me

Glothic · 26-30, F

@Curiousguy833 That's why it's confusing, he'd acted so excited, worried, but excited... as anyone probably would, as I did/am. The thing is, I wasn't ready either, but I cannot just run away because it scares me, he shouldn't be able to either...

Curiousguy833 · 31-35, M

Give him a chance, communicate... let him know that you want him here and that you are also scared and unsure. Don't pretend to have everything fully under control.

If you honestly try to have a genuine convo with no judgement on your part and he is still not trying to work something out. Then you at least know that you have no regrets, and that you did what you can. It's on him and trust me, he will regret it.

Glothic · 26-30, F

@Curiousguy833 Yeah, I've had alleged heart-to-hearts with him. He knew how scared I was when he left... But unfortunately it's all about him still. Which means it's better that he's left, considering the kind of person he would be to our child in that case. It's just a tough situation to accept at this point.

Curiousguy833 · 31-35, M

I know, but if you think you did the best that you would then there is nothing more anyone can ask from you.

You just need to tale a breath and take things one day at a time and look forward. Make you have some sort of support system (a friend or family that you have there with you)

But remember that day that you tried to talk to him and give him a chance. Remember how you felt because in the future when you are doing better he will most likely come back and want to be part of your life in some way. Remember that deadbeats will always be deadbeats!

Glothic · 26-30, F

Absolutely.