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What counts as a "bad mother"?

In situations where loving their kids isn't a question.

One who doesn't take care of them in a healthy way. (Like the kids are often sick not deadly way it can probably be fixed with just a cleanlier environment and diet but the mother doesn't recognize it)?

One who goes to school and can't see the kids a reasonable amount of time. The school is a dream of the mothers but if she does finish school, it'd lead to a well paying job in which they could work normal hours. Though the kids are taken care of when she's not there?

One who sent one their kids to a boarding school who could better handle a disability and only saw that child 2 days out the week (the mother could've moved closer so the kid wouldn't have to be boarded up but didn't for unsaid reason)?

One who has a kid with mental, emotional, or behavioral issues that can be taken care of with therapy or medication but they don't take them for unsaid reasons (not a deadly situation)?

Calling them "bad" is arbitrary I think but that's the term I've heard used. Just wondering with situation having grey areas of what would be the ideal work/home life balance, economic background, knowledgeability of child rearing, motivations, etc.

Any other situation?
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Hasmita · M
I think 'bad mother' is a put down which shifts the focus onto the woman and conveniently ignores other factors like the father for one. It's sexist terminology.
Cease · 26-30
@Hasmita Sexist how? The mother in the situations I described were the ones tasked with judging and making decisions pertaining to their kid.
Hasmita · M
The term in general is sexist because it discriminates against women.
How often do you hear of a bad father. Why should everything be down to the mother?
Cease · 26-30
@Hasmita I hear deadbeat father as much as much as I hear bad mother.

Also in cases of divorce or if there was an accidental pregnancy, mothers more often get custody or mother ends up taking care of the kid
Hasmita · M
Fair enough.
Certainly not in my experience though.