What counts as a "bad mother"?

In situations where loving their kids isn't a question.

One who doesn't take care of them in a healthy way. (Like the kids are often sick not deadly way it can probably be fixed with just a cleanlier environment and diet but the mother doesn't recognize it)?

One who goes to school and can't see the kids a reasonable amount of time. The school is a dream of the mothers but if she does finish school, it'd lead to a well paying job in which they could work normal hours. Though the kids are taken care of when she's not there?

One who sent one their kids to a boarding school who could better handle a disability and only saw that child 2 days out the week (the mother could've moved closer so the kid wouldn't have to be boarded up but didn't for unsaid reason)?

One who has a kid with mental, emotional, or behavioral issues that can be taken care of with therapy or medication but they don't take them for unsaid reasons (not a deadly situation)?

Calling them "bad" is arbitrary I think but that's the term I've heard used. Just wondering with situation having grey areas of what would be the ideal work/home life balance, economic background, knowledgeability of child rearing, motivations, etc.

Any other situation?

Alyx0 · M

My mom was #4 to me, I remember begging her to take me to therapy and she told me it was selfish to ask when she has to watch 2 kids 24/7. I don't think it was abuse, maybe poor judgment. I feel like it all has to do with personality. My mom, aunt and grandma are very much alike with their parenting. My mom has said some pretty hurtful things to me over the years but I don't see it as verbal abuse because she was mad at the times when she said. I guess my answer is bias because she is my mom lol.