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How do you deal with estranged family connections who want to visit suddenly?

Some relatives who lived abroad and only just came for vacation want to see us before they go back home.

Thing is, they are my late dad's relatives.
We chose to part with the rest of them because most adults there are honestly just bullies, uncaring and had lost our respect by their choices and actions in our time of grief.

Years had passed since then. And it is still more peaceful to live disconnected from them.

But as for these visiting relatives, I am yet to know how they are. Because to be honest, I don't have any experience with them that I remember. So I am not particularly opposed to them visiting. I have no reason to accept, but also no reason to reject the offer. So I just allowed it.

But I do not know what to expect or how to treat them if they do visit.

Should they step even a toe out of line and try to hurt my family, they would see I am not my dad and I can devour and cut them in half.
But part of me...actually hopes they are different and sincere. That they actually care, even if it is unlikely.
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Picklebobble2 · 56-60, M
Family (however much estranged) can be a real pita.
And yes don't they know how to make you feel guilty holding such decisions in your power at short notice !

If it were me I'd probably try and be as gracious and welcoming as possible on the understanding that this may well be the last time you see them.

And while you're at it let them know exactly how they made you feel after your loss.
Could be they misunderstood something or vice versa
Casheyane · F
@Picklebobble2 pita as in pain in the ass?

Tbh, I am not sure how to react. But I was raised with manners and class so I'd try that. I was raised to show respect. But growing up, I have learned to treat people accordingly.