It's sad that I have to delete a post about the love a child brings because people are so offended by it 🙄

I'm not defending my choice to become a mom. I never said ONE WORD against people who don't want kids. I said, I get it. I said, it's people's choice.

I guess we're just animals after all.

Whatever.

I LOVE MY SON!

I BELIEVE IN CHILDREN AND THE FUTURE!

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ChiefJustWalks · 26-30

Yeah some people get really hyped over words & thoughts, it's crazy. I didn't see the post but I'm with you because I feel the same way. I don't think there's anything wrong with people who don't wanna have kids. I think that's awesome. People having kids they don't want, is the cause of so many crappy childhoods. I'm also not saying that "people who don't want kids" would be bad parents at all (just to be clear before anyone gets butthurt) but parenting isn't for everyone & that's okay. It doesn't need to be for everyone & I know you don't shame anybody for that decision. I certainly don't. The world needs people who don't want kids just as much as we need people who want them. We all contribute to the world & the lives of others in our own ways.

I've seen people who subtly shame people who say they don't want kids & I can see why they get defensive about it. Funny thing is they get SO defensive about it that they even defend their decision against those of us who fully support their decision 🤷

Punches · 46-50, F

@ChiefJustWalks I think deep down, some people regret never having had kids.

I suppose one could adopt or try to get pregnant later in life BUT, after a certain age, maybe 40, one just does not usually have the patience nor energy to raise small children.

We love our kids of course but when they are young, they are a lot to deal with. But I tell ya, we are proud of our kids as long as we live. Being a parent, there's just nothing like it.

Well I could go on but yeah basically - I think right now if I had never had a child, I would regret it. I cannot imagine NOT having my son.

ScreamingFox

@ChiefJustWalks YES. The world needs us all just as we are. Parenting is no joke so I support people making responsible decisions 100%.

In the post I said there was no shame either way, I always try to be inclusive and fair because i appreciate people's individuality and right to choose. It's none of my business, but I did want to say how my son has shown me love I never knew existed.

Lol people sometimes want to argue when you agree 😂 and I'm just not gonna be spoken to like I'm one of the ignorant ones. I care and support, I don't tear down, unless they're trying to tear others down.

It's the internet though lol

Thank you for understanding and I know you know what I mean when I say our kids bring a joy only kids can bring. And that there's hope for the future because of kids. You're a good dad and I'm so happy you did have a child because I trust you're putting a good person out into the world.

ChiefJustWalks · 26-30

@ScreamingFox I definitely get what you mean about your son showing you love that you never knew existed. I've loved people before & I've always loved my family but nothing overwhelms you quite as much as the love of your kid. She'll probably always be the best thing that ever happened to me. & I agree when you say there's hope for the future because of kids. I know a lot of people say they don't wanna bring kids into this messed up world & I understand that. It makes us think stuff like "what if life just sucks & now my kid has to go through this shit too". But maybe our view on the world shapes a lot of their views on it too. If we think that way, they might too. I honestly don't even think about the rest of the world when I'm with my kid. & Thank you btw 🤗

ChiefJustWalks · 26-30

@Punches I have heard people say they regret not having kids. I try not to be like "well you could still have them" because I know there's always reasons & I don't think it's all so bad that they didn't have kids. I understand why people get mixed feelings about it though & have those thoughts later because like you, I probably would too. I never felt ready to have kids so I definitely wasn't trying to but I did always know that I wanted a kid or two someday. I've known that since I was 5 because I used to say wanted to work on cars & have kids when I grow up 😂