It's sad that I have to delete a post about the love a child brings because people are so offended by it 🙄

@greensnacks perhaps my wording read wrong, but the whole point of the post was to say people have a choice, I understand and I'm happy with the choice I made.

Sometimes I just wonder how people read me that way. I am constantly on about equality and freedom and growth, why would I be trying to tell people to feel shame? 😂 Seriously?

You think I am trying to start some stupid propaganda? 😂

@ScreamingFox People, especially people online read us the way we word our sentences. And not everyone follows us and reads all of our posts, or know us well enough to know what our beliefs are.

And the wording used is one consistent to the actions of patriarchal society and shaming childless women in particular. I get to live this shaming daily, especially where I am located.

It's sort of similar to what I'm experiencing with vegetarianism here. Whenever I have to sit on a table with people that don't know I'm vegetarian (because I don't go on and make ads about it) they question me immediately why why and they are hostile with me right from the start. 90% people are like that here. (here in my country).

Long story short, you can say and word whatever you'd like and however you'd like, and I am only sharing my experience and how I personally read the post. And I said I didn't like the wording, that's it. Because I hear that exact wording and shaming all the time, in every shape and form.
Society tells me to get married and have children and I'm none of that. Constantly. People feel sorry for me, dismissing my personal choices because I'm not married, and am single at 35, they tell me I'm selfish because I don't ever want to have children, or they try and convince me that I'll change my mind about it etc etc.

I personally don't believe you were at any point doing a propaganda or whatever, and particularly because I hold you higher in respect than most people here, I let you know how I feel about it.

In your post you said people can do whatever they want, but they will never understand how is it to have a child and love it and how much it saved you.

That's exactly what is being said to women that decide to not have children (regardless if they can or can't biologically too) implying we're deprived of something so wonderful that did so much for them/you. Implying that we have less than women with children. When it's just not the case.
I find my reason to live and fulfillment in other areas and give all of my love to my family, my sister, my nieces, my pets, my close friends and me.

My point is, women are and can be more than mothers, and not all value to a woman is tied to her ability to bring life (which is pretty awesome imo), but it's what we've been fed and trained for from babies.
And the post, to me, felt a bit dismissive of the diverse experiences and identities that women can embody beyond motherhood.

So I wanted to share.

@greensnacks I was explaining my experience while also honoring people who choose not to have kids. So I wouldn't offend anyone. Other people understood what I meant. I think you read something wrong tbh because you're lecturing me like I don't already accept people making their own choices 🤷🏼‍♀ I'm not going to argue with you over the same point. You're being accusatory and I'm done with it.

@ScreamingFox That's a shame you got that from my reply. Thank you anyway.