Parenting is hard

Parenting special needs children is even harder. Mostly because many people don't get it. They don't see or understand the extra struggles, the extra care, the extra doctor appointments, the extra everything you need to do to help them. They think the answer is easy, simple and clear. It's not!

How do you tell a young boy he's going to need foot surgery when he's still traumatized by the last time he was in the hospital. How do you help him understand it won't be the same. It will be difficult. His fear is real. There is no easy answer. But we have to find a way

How do you explain to a young girl turning into a young woman to be okay with something that happens to her body is so unpredictable, unregular and messy when she has to have control in her life and when she can't she has dangerous panic attack s. The answer is easier with her. Giving her the pill to stop and control it. But it's still hard she's so young. There could be risks but right now the calm it will give her is worth the risk.

So yes a special needs child is not easy.

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Mamapolo2016 · F

A few years back, there was a post here about, I think, Colombia in South America. It was about women, wives and mothers, who were sneaking across the border into a place where cash money was more readily available to “prostitutes”

A lot of people made the claim that never ever would they do such a disgusting thing. They were too moral, too righteous. I said then and I say now, “You don’t KNOW what you’d do if your kids were starving to death.”

My point is that those who have never been in the exact circumstances of someone else are not able to see the trials and tribulations of that other person.

For several reasons, I CAN empathize, although I’ve never done it myself. Not like you’re doing it daily.

I think I’ve made my opinion clear. You and your family are awesome. Every day you get up in the morning with one clear objective - making it work for everybody.

Cigarguy · 41-45, M

@Mamapolo2016 thank you for always being kind to me on here. I am feeling a lot better about things today. Our life isn't easy but I love it and we're making it work somehow.

Mamapolo2016 · F

@Cigarguy Yep. Speed bumps happen.