Picklebobble2 · 56-60, M
Youngsters like routine set by the adults around them.
If one set of adults want to disrupt that, that means she has fewer certainties to rely on.
If one set of adults want to disrupt that, that means she has fewer certainties to rely on.
Cigarguy101 · 41-45, M
@Picklebobble2 my daughter is very much into routines. The last thing she does before bed is plan her routine for the next day. She gets that from me. She writes a list then crosses off each thing on the list during the day.
SunshineGirl · 36-40, F
Well, it is a good reason and it shows a high degree of empathy and focus on the things that really matter to her.
I may be projecting, but I wonder perhaps if she enjoys competitive sport as much as her brothers, or if she was trying to fit in. She still has her musical activities, so she is still engaged.
Good luck.
I may be projecting, but I wonder perhaps if she enjoys competitive sport as much as her brothers, or if she was trying to fit in. She still has her musical activities, so she is still engaged.
Good luck.
Teslin · M
Well, you have to convince her that Sundays are not a problem, if you really want her to play.
Believe me, I know from experience it is not easy. My sons played football, basketball and baseball. I also coached MS and HS basketball and baseball. I wasn't a teacher, so running from work to practices and games were fun LOL.
Our schedules were crazy but I wouldn't change a thing.
Believe me, I know from experience it is not easy. My sons played football, basketball and baseball. I also coached MS and HS basketball and baseball. I wasn't a teacher, so running from work to practices and games were fun LOL.
Our schedules were crazy but I wouldn't change a thing.
I think that should really be her choice and I think it's important for her to not feel forced to do something she doesn't want to do because other members of the family might want her to or just because they think it's best for her. I think that would be detrimental.
MartinTheFirst · 26-30, M
I would prioritize getting her into something else if she wanted to if the schedule is right. I wish I would have stayed in some group activity thing, like acrobatics or dancing, because that's a great way to make good friends and keep them. It'll be useful when she grows up and it becomes more difficult to find friends.
Cigarguy101 · 41-45, M
@MartinTheFirst that is a real struggle for her. I don't think she has any close friends other than her brother. She says the kids don't get her, they aren't mean to her but they just don't get her. I know she'll be around people playing the violin and piano. It's just hard to know what is the right thing. No one has a clear answer lol. But I'm just going to follow my heart and my daughters.
MartinTheFirst · 26-30, M
@Cigarguy101 Yeah, I always felt the same way as a kid. I recommend a small program that lets you try a bunch of different things like I once went to if you have it near you. It's a bit anxiety inducing to go to it since there's new people every time, but maybe something would click and she'd like to stay there.
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SomeMichGuy · M
@Cigarguy101 It's your job to raise good kid.
She is trying to show you that she has learned what love is because of what you HAVE taught her.
Let her care for you and marvel that your girl is such a fine human, a loving & caring human.
You don't need to be a martyr, in spite of a burning desire to be that.
She is trying to show you that she has learned what love is because of what you HAVE taught her.
Let her care for you and marvel that your girl is such a fine human, a loving & caring human.
You don't need to be a martyr, in spite of a burning desire to be that.
Cigarguy101 · 41-45, M
@SomeMichGuy well thank you, thank you for saying such kind things. She's a amazing kids. She's been though so much at s young age. I just have a hard time knowing it's because she wants to do something for me. I really don't let anyone do for me! I feel it's my job to take care of everything and everyone. I have to make sure everything is perfectly prepared and planned out. If I don't it keeps me up at night things did I do this, pack that, check this or that. I know I can't do everything but I feel like I have to
SomeMichGuy · M
@Cigarguy101
You are welcome.
I understand this desire to do all for everyone, but you have a child whom you have taught to show love, and she wants to do it.
For a child to want to ease your burden...that child is the sort of person you should be proud to have fathered, proud to have parented--we need MORE like her. So take her aside and thank her with a big hug and tell her how much you love her and have a luxurious FAMILY Sunday‐‐they won't last forever.
You are welcome.
I understand this desire to do all for everyone, but you have a child whom you have taught to show love, and she wants to do it.
For a child to want to ease your burden...that child is the sort of person you should be proud to have fathered, proud to have parented--we need MORE like her. So take her aside and thank her with a big hug and tell her how much you love her and have a luxurious FAMILY Sunday‐‐they won't last forever.
Cigarguy101 · 41-45, M
@Kaitlyn08 she plays on a league that is for special needs children. I don't think she would do well in a regular league. She has a lot of sensory issues. This league always her to wear leggings and have her ears bud in while they play. I'm going to talk to her coach and see.