Manipulative relationship

@PoetryNEmotion she is 21 and I let her make the same mistake getting back with him over and over but it is truly diminishing her self esteem and she is starting to question herself and blaming herself for any issues that they have.

@Nebula Sounds like she is an adult and needs a counsellor. The more a parent pushes a child away from someone they want to be with, the more it causes confusion and stress and the wrong reaction. Apparently she has been on and off with him a long time. That is unfortunate because teens and early 20-year-olds tend to remain with their first loves. If he is suicidal too, this is a whole bad situation. A restraining order might help if she stays away. She won't. I don't know what else to suggest unless she speaks to an abuse counsellor. They are educated in this more so than I am. A fresh outlook might even help her see the truth that he is no good for her and really doesn't love her. Good luck.

@PoetryNEmotion oh she will. I gave her time to learn for herself but he is way too much in her head and I'm not having it anymore. I already have her lined up to get therapy. I've lived through the same thing with her father so it's not anything new to me.

@Nebula It is unfortunate how abuse seems to follow in families. I think you are doing the best you can. Get that therapy fast. It is good to vent here.

@PoetryNEmotion yeah, be I'm spending my lifetime trying to break these cycles.

@Nebula You can do this. You are strong. A survivor. I know a bit about abuse. Did you ever join a support group? They always help.

@PoetryNEmotion I never have but that's what I'm trying to get my daughter into. It's a place that has therapists and support groups

@Nebula It would set a good example if you went with her. You have experience in this problem and can well understand how she is feeling. She is afraid and confused and angry and sad, all.

@PoetryNEmotion yeah, you're right

@Nebula Happy to help. Keep us updated.

@PoetryNEmotion ❤️ thanks