In need of advice

I am a mother of an 8 year old. He currently lives in a different state than I do. He was “released” from school a month prior to it being let out due to putting his hands on others and saying the worst things imaginable to other people. These behaviors have apparently happened all year long, which I didn’t find out about any of it until I heard from his principal. I am currently working on getting full custody of him to get him out of the environment he is in. The thing is, is that I’m going to have to undo everything that has been done. What the heck am I suppose to do!?!? Any advice would help.

Top | Newest First | Oldest First

DiegoWolfe · 36-40

be firm on what is and is not allowed with you, But also be the loving parent, not the "fun" one, but show him that when you act good you can do fun shit, when you act bad you get punished. You also need to explain to him that you never ever didnt want him and that you are his mother and you only want what is best for him!

LadyUni · 31-35, F

@DiegoWolfe I am the fun parent. But I also don’t take shit. He knows when he’s with me what I will take and what I won’t. But it’s hard to structure him and discipline him for him to just go back to his dads house and everything I’ve done is undone. I appreciate your help.

DiegoWolfe · 36-40

@LadyUni I just want your wump to be a good one

Patientlywaiting · 46-50, FVIP

Has there been broken attachment from a primary care giver, particularly within the first five years of his life? Consider reading up on attachment difficulties, especially if there was also an unpredictable home life. In very extreme cases and especially where there is abuse and neglect, attachment difficulties can become reactive attachment disorder and the children need therapeutic parenting and additional support to help heal. I have three adopted children so this is well known about in adoptive families but not so much in birth children. Good luck getting custody of him. Feel free to message me if you want ❤️

SammyJo · 51-55, F

He needs to feel loved...he needs to learn boundaries....and he needs to learn what is right and wrong...but learn that he can be forgiven and that he can change his future....

Good luck, sweetheart..

SJD xx

Daviszabecki · 56-60, M

Any ‘behavior’ from a child is a cry for help. It sounds like he needs attention, tons of attention and unwavering love. He needs to know he’s loved unconditionally

wintersecret · 41-45, M

If kids saying anythg which isnt a goodone
That kids need attention n the bond of parents.

Firstly talk to him and know the reason he may be disturb being apart frm mom

Just a guess not to offend ur personal space

Strictmichael75 · 61-69, M

He needs lots of love and attention
To explain what is right and what is wrong
Won’t be easy
Maybe get medical advice
If you want to chat more message me
It will take time and patience
Need to be strict too

RedBaron · M

I had all sorts of behavior issues at that age and got suspended but not kicked out of school. Eventually, I grew up.

Yvonne · 22-25, F

Quality time and love are the most important things but don't be afraid to discipline him when he misbehaves.

LadyUni · 31-35, F

Thank you all so much for the advice. I appreciate you all taking the time to stop and help a stranger. Bless you all.

View 1 more replies »

LadyUni · 31-35, F

@Strictmichael75 Thank you! I just want the best for him and to turn out to be a good person. It’s hard to shape our kids into being the best version of themselves that they can be with all of these outside influences. Especially in the world we live in today.

Strictmichael75 · 61-69, M

@LadyUni It is indeed, especially as he is, unfortunately not with you

wintersecret · 41-45, M

@LadyUni hipe u find the best answer and things get going smoothly

🤗

Add a comment...