Idk why but i think i'm afraid to get too close to my friends

Theres a bday coming up, half of me wants to get them something thoughtful. I think i know just the thing too.

The other half wants to purposefully forget their bday so things never get too deep and they don't expect much from me or rely on me for anything. Just someone that Teters along acquaintance and best friend.

The way i act in relationships follow me into friendships as well 😂

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Reject · 26-30, M

You have avoidant attachment disordoer?! 😱

Pressure

@Reject damn when he knows his attachment styles

Reject · 26-30, M

@Pressure I just know it because I’m the opposite and have anxious attachment disorder. Unfortunately I’m usually attracted to people with the avoidant style and it’s disastrous as they try to get away and I try to close the distance. Lol.

Pressure

@Reject omg lol i've had the anxious attachment one for years until i went through the last straw last year.

I think i'm a lot happier this way. But i don't want to hurt anybody. And for once it seems like theres genuine people around me with good intentions and i don't know what to do with that. Its too emotiomal, it's too cute, i can't 😂

Reject · 26-30, M

@Pressure I understand. The last time I expressed that anxious side of me was like 7 years ago and after that I just stopped. I honestly think it’s best for both people to just take care of themselves and then share that with each other. You know? I think you’ll know it’s the right people for you when they can respect the distance you ask for. 🙂‍↕