Abandonment issues due to past

Scared to date again. What can i do?

I have fears such as, I feel next guy even if he might be good, he might not like me or break up with me.

or if the relationship fails....

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littlepuppywantanewlife · 31-35, M

You should not be afraid. Eventually people leave when they die.

I was afraid to loose her too and honestly I did loose her. It's like no way going back. But you don't know untill you look around. There are good men and atleast they can be great friends 🙂

sahi81 · 22-25, F

@littlepuppywantanewlife i am picky with male friends, i don't want any, most guys just try to get one thing from me in name of friends. Only few r nice. But i don't want to go through garbage while looking for good. I only date men or talk with men if any need, i don't make friends with me.

sahi81 · 22-25, F

@littlepuppywantanewlife yes i agree, not everyone r same.... and some might want to equally invested in me

littlepuppywantanewlife · 31-35, M

@sahi81 what do you mean equally invested? So you never make friendship with a man just relationship?

sahi81 · 22-25, F

@littlepuppywantanewlife Equally invested in making relationship work instead of giving up easily... I used to have male friends and tried to make friends (men and women both) but had to deal with many bad men coming in my life as freinds. So i am really picky whom i allow in my life.

sahi81 · 22-25, F

@littlepuppywantanewlife Yes, i stopped looking for or making male friends....

I only look for men i can date...

littlepuppywantanewlife · 31-35, M

@sahi81 so even if a guy was nice he can't be your friend?

sahi81 · 22-25, F

@littlepuppywantanewlife @littlepuppywantanewlife it depends if he is genueinely nice. With my trust issues rn, i am not sure if i am ok with making male friends.

sahi81 · 22-25, F

@littlepuppywantanewlife i felt like having male friends is waste of time if most of them only see me as "sex object".

sahi81 · 22-25, F

@littlepuppywantanewlife in that time, instead of talking with them, i can go and search for someone good to date lol

littlepuppywantanewlife · 31-35, M

@sahi81 Not all males think of women as a sex object. It maybe difficult for some people to find a man like that.

sahi81 · 22-25, F

@littlepuppywantanewlife not all but such type males only come in women's life more as friends or love

littlepuppywantanewlife · 31-35, M

@sahi81 I am sorry that you haven't met a very nice person who would treat you well.

sahi81 · 22-25, F

@littlepuppywantanewlife yes 😞, i am hoping i can meet good ones in future.....

littlepuppywantanewlife · 31-35, M

@sahi81 keep looking 😁

sahi81 · 22-25, F

@littlepuppywantanewlife do u know where and how can i meet good men?

littlepuppywantanewlife · 31-35, M

@sahi81 make long terms friends.

sahi81 · 22-25, F

@littlepuppywantanewlife too confused and scared to do that rn. I will think of it later....

littlepuppywantanewlife · 31-35, M

@sahi81 well then don't if you are scared.