My Husband wants me to Quit Everything

My husband has never had a job. He just won't work. He always has some reason. He doesn't like to talk about it. Now that I have a 1 year old son he is the " primary caregiver" even though he is still super lazy and usually spends 90% of his time watching anime and eating while supposedly watching the baby.

I'm always tired and his response is let's just you quit your job. Sell the house and move to my 3rd world country.
His country is OK but I don't have family there and I will never move to somewhere unless he has some plan and something going on.
So today I was so tired from work ( even though I work from home I strongly dislike my job) and I just told him that I'm tired and he offered the same suggestion, let's move to my country and you sell this house and our car and you can go back and forth and manage your rental property.

I told if that if he gets a job and rents us a place in his country that I will go.
I know that he won't do shit but I was serious.

He said , " WHAT!!, you expect me to get some stupid job for $600 USD per month" and he was like " I'm not discussing this anymore that is so dumb".
So he wont work for low wages but he will let me be the only worker because my wage is higher???
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eMortal · M

This is the child support/marriage trap in reverse.
A lot women do that to men knowing if he divorces, they get child support and sometimes alimony since the husband is usually a higher earner. Now that you're the higher bread winner, he will get all that if you divorce him, at least in the US. So basically he doesn't work because he knows you're stuck. Someone needs to punch some pride in his face!!
If he is able yet doesn't work here, he'll be the same bum in any 3rd world country and you his cash cow. Don't go.
I recently met another woman in your situation. Her husband hasn't tried to change jobs in 13 years!! Same low paying job. She earns 4 times his salary. If she divorces he gets half her stuff. This world is scary.