My Husband wants me to Quit Everything

My husband has never had a job. He just won't work. He always has some reason. He doesn't like to talk about it. Now that I have a 1 year old son he is the " primary caregiver" even though he is still super lazy and usually spends 90% of his time watching anime and eating while supposedly watching the baby.

I'm always tired and his response is let's just you quit your job. Sell the house and move to my 3rd world country.
His country is OK but I don't have family there and I will never move to somewhere unless he has some plan and something going on.
So today I was so tired from work ( even though I work from home I strongly dislike my job) and I just told him that I'm tired and he offered the same suggestion, let's move to my country and you sell this house and our car and you can go back and forth and manage your rental property.

I told if that if he gets a job and rents us a place in his country that I will go.
I know that he won't do shit but I was serious.

He said , " WHAT!!, you expect me to get some stupid job for $600 USD per month" and he was like " I'm not discussing this anymore that is so dumb".
So he wont work for low wages but he will let me be the only worker because my wage is higher???
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LifeIsShort · M

Sorry to say, I always wonder how these type of guys manage to lure women in to marriage.

REMsleep · 41-45, F

@LifeIsShort hey before I got married I wondered the same thing I thought I was a pretty smart cookie.
He's not that handsome he never had money or anything like that, wasn't a bad boy type.
I just thought he was a nice nerdy guy who wouldn't cheat on me and would be my friend and help me have fun in life and raise a kid. I'm introverted and he accepted that.
He didn't work much but he had legal immigration issues to explain that.

LifeIsShort · M

@REMsleep Sorry, even If he can't work than he should at least take care of all the household duties.

Also there is no promise that he would suddenly become a hard worker, he might probably spend all the money you get after selling the house.

REMsleep · 41-45, F

@LifeIsShort he can work legally now he had immigration issues a long time ago but they're fixed but he just lost all his paperwork and he won't replace it.
You are right I don't put stock in anything he says. That's what the post was really about. If I sold my house I would be a fool. All the money would be gone after a year or two. That's why I told him to go to his country and get a job and then I would follow him, that would show some effort but he ain't going to do it.