My father is dying

I’m not sure how I feel about this. I’m going to miss the man, but he wasn’t and still isn’t, very nice to me. He’s not been very present in my life, and thinks that if he throws enough money at therapy and drugs that our relationship will get better. I disagree, but don’t really have a voice. My father was a military man, and from money, and thinks he runs everything. I called him today a bit earlier than I should’ve and when I realized this, hung up, as per his wishes, asking him to please call me when he has time. He texted me back and we spoke for a moment, the conversation ending with, “leave me alone, I’ll let you know when I have time for you”; making me wonder why he bothered saying anything in the first place. I mostly just feel bad for the guy, but he doesn’t make it very easy to be a good son either.

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Casheyane · 31-35, F

I can't say much.
But from experience, sometimes people give the only way they know to give, because that's all they have and have received all their lives.

As children, sometimes it's up to us to teach our parents that there are other ways to love. To get them to see that there are such things like love languages and that each person has his/her own love language. To make them see that if you love people in their language, it helps them grow and makes communication easier.

It is not an easy road to take, especially with limited time. But the memories to make can be enough to give one strength for a lifetime.

Your call, my friend. I hope you find the strength in yourself to choose what is best for you.