I Want to Be In a Healthy Loving Relationship

Modern dating is strange. I get that everyone is different, but I don’t relate to wanting to date multiple people. If I don’t get the impression I have enough chemistry where someone is worth seeing exclusively then I don’t feel like giving that anymore time/energy, or I tell them flat out the spark isn’t there, but if they’re a cool person then we can be friends. I don’t feel ‘tied down’ by exploring that connection deeply without keeping my ‘options open’, nor do I feel bound. It’s not as though by being exclusive we’re picking out rings. Lol..

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Anon066 · 31-35, M

I don't get that either. I've never really gone for the whole dating thing, I usually end up with people that start as friends.

SW-User

@Anon066 it’s cool that’s worked for you. I’ve never felt a spark with a a friend after the fact then became partners .

Peaceful · F

@SW-User same girl! It is either there or it isn't. No use forcing it.

Anon066 · 31-35, M

Well I guess until my most recent ex I've always had interest in them but started as just friends due to them being taken or far away or something. So not exactly like falling for an actual friend like with my last ex, with her we fell in love without even realizing we had feelings for each other at first.