CrazyChick21 · 46-50, F
A strong dependable dad, well that's an awesome thing. My dad doesn't have a lot of warmth and patience but he is incredibly loyal. If there's a problem my dad is the one who will give you the best advice and help you sort it. I grew up feeling my dad was some sort of hero I suppose. Even in an argument with another kid I think I resorted to the classic "my dad's bigger than your dad" He's a make do and mend kind of man. He can pretty much fix anything with the right tools and he taught me a lot of practical skills growing up. Things like fixing a puncture on my bike or changing a fuse on a plug. Discipline wise he was a force to be reconned with. My mum would often say, "wait till your father gets home" and I still have a bit of healthy fear about what he might say over certain things. He's just turned 80 and it's a bit scary seeing him get older, now I'm aware he's starting to get frail and he won't be around forever. He's still very much the safety net he always was.
Soupnoodles · 26-30, F
@CrazyChick21 That is very beautiful! Thank you.
AdmiralPrune · 46-50, M
It’s difficult to convey. There are the obvious things, like quality time together and an active interest in your development ss a person.
There’s also the security that comes with the knowledge that there’s a man who will not allow any harm to come to you, who will stand by you even when you’re in the wrong, and will never turn away.
I could write paragraphs of things my Dad is brilliant at, and some character flaws he has that just makes him a more special person in my eyes.
I’m sorry to hear this wasn’t something you experienced, but I’m sure you can live it when you are yourself one day a parent. I certainly work hard to do for my kids what my Dad did for me.
There’s also the security that comes with the knowledge that there’s a man who will not allow any harm to come to you, who will stand by you even when you’re in the wrong, and will never turn away.
I could write paragraphs of things my Dad is brilliant at, and some character flaws he has that just makes him a more special person in my eyes.
I’m sorry to hear this wasn’t something you experienced, but I’m sure you can live it when you are yourself one day a parent. I certainly work hard to do for my kids what my Dad did for me.
BridgeOvertroubledWaters · 61-69, M
My father died when I was nearly 4. He was only 43.
I grew up without a father , my mother having to take it all on her shoulders , of which she did a very good job despite the many difficulties.
My brother is 13 years older than I am so in certain ways he provided a big brother/father figure. We are 60 years older now and we stay in touch and are very good friends.
I had a few uncles who were very influential in my growing up , one who is now 91 and is in a home with dementia but I still visit at least once a week.
I often wonder if I would have been a better father to my own children if I would have grown up with a father (I try and think I'm ok).
I grew up without a father , my mother having to take it all on her shoulders , of which she did a very good job despite the many difficulties.
My brother is 13 years older than I am so in certain ways he provided a big brother/father figure. We are 60 years older now and we stay in touch and are very good friends.
I had a few uncles who were very influential in my growing up , one who is now 91 and is in a home with dementia but I still visit at least once a week.
I often wonder if I would have been a better father to my own children if I would have grown up with a father (I try and think I'm ok).
mazedona · 22-25, F
@BridgeOvertroubledWaters
It seems that most people grow up without a father. I had one and I still do; he's very good and always took care of me like a princess. My uncles didn't have children either, so they would bring me Blu-rays of TV series. That's good, but it made me more spoiled and capricious. Honestly, I have no complaints about my childhood with my parents; I was always extremely happy. They would take me to villas and buy me everything I wanted, any console, any new fashion I could think of. I never saw anything wrong. I believe it's important to always grow under a leadership style I respect single mothers, but I also respect united parents. For me, the bond between those parents is vital, just as I grew up seeing them as great. Adopted children or children without a father generally grow up with deficiencies They tend to end up in d addiction, and although factors such as Levels socioeconomics, growing up in marginalized, unstructured neighborhoods, or growing up witnessing violence also play a role, this can contribute to their downf.
It seems that most people grow up without a father. I had one and I still do; he's very good and always took care of me like a princess. My uncles didn't have children either, so they would bring me Blu-rays of TV series. That's good, but it made me more spoiled and capricious. Honestly, I have no complaints about my childhood with my parents; I was always extremely happy. They would take me to villas and buy me everything I wanted, any console, any new fashion I could think of. I never saw anything wrong. I believe it's important to always grow under a leadership style I respect single mothers, but I also respect united parents. For me, the bond between those parents is vital, just as I grew up seeing them as great. Adopted children or children without a father generally grow up with deficiencies They tend to end up in d addiction, and although factors such as Levels socioeconomics, growing up in marginalized, unstructured neighborhoods, or growing up witnessing violence also play a role, this can contribute to their downf.
