Ive never met my father

He probably doesnt even know i exist. I dont refer to him as 'dad' or 'father'. I refer to him as the sperm donor. Sometimes im jealous of my sister and the relationship she has with her dad. They talk , they laugh , they share things. I shouldnt feel like that but i cant help it.

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Heretochat · 46-50, M

It means also that you never found a man in your life who coulf be a fther figure for you
It doesn"r need to be the "sperm donor", being a father really starts when the kid is present

LadyInBlack · 18-21, F

@Heretochat Honestly, even with a father figure, it is different from having a biological parent.
This is why many sperm/egg donor conceived children grow up and end up being against donations. In fact, a Harvard study did show that around 70-80% I believe, children born out of these situations don't recommend it.
Keep in mind, most of these children do have 2 active parents.
But other than having a figure of a specific gender (which is important), it's also about a child's right to their biological identity, biological bond, cultural bond, medical history, genetic mirroring...etc.

Heretochat · 46-50, M

@LadyInBlack I agree on the last part about biological identity and genetic, that's completly cleat
But I have the feeling the topic was about the emotional dimension

LadyInBlack · 18-21, F

@Heretochat These type of situations are just depression all around honestly.
Difficult to say, humans are complex creatures.
I don't wish this type of experience on anyone, there needs to be a better way to keep track of paternity honestly. If I were a guy, I would want to know if I have a kid out there. If I were a kid, I would like to know who my dad is even if he doesn't want a relationship with me.