My husband is drunk and passed out before 4pm

He doesn’t really drink much. Maybe once a year. His dad was an alcoholic and he is an addict in recovery although alcohol wasn’t his drug of choice.

I am irritated because I know he is doing this to avoid his feelings and and I am afraid he is in a dangerous mental state.

There is not much I can do at this point.

And yes kids are fine. There are plenty sober adults in the house.

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Nightwings · F

I had no idea that your husband was dealing with this so badly. I have to say that I can't imagine being in either his or your shoes, but for the love of god I hope that he can pull himself together. I'm sure this isn't how he wants to spend the time that he has left with you. You should let him know that you need him to be there for you, and that you need him to prove to you that he can take care of everything once you're gone. I would be livid if I was you. I hope that you get to talk everything out, and have some quality time together.

SwampFlower · 31-35, F

@Nightwings He hasn’t been doing well for several days now but I didn’t expect him to just get shitfaced in the afternoon today.

I am pretty upset but mostly just worried. He is going to have to talk to me and stop shutting me out after this behavior.

Nightwings · F

@SwampFlower I was confused about why he was being cold the other day, but I think I get a clearer picture now. Honestly I'm so sorry that he resorts to pushing you away, that is not what you or anybody in your situation needs. I'm hoping that perhaps this can lead to a good conversation between you guys sometime tomorrow, and change things going forward. It's understandable that you're worried about him. /=