I’m sick of my mother touching my stuff

My mother took my coats and blanket scarves that I wore from last couple of days and washed them without my permission. They were perfectly fine that way they were and weren’t dirty. My mother claims they smelled like sweat and that she could smell me from the drivers seat on Sunday when I was in the back seat. She must have a really special nose. I came into my room and saw my stuff gone and wondered where they went. Oh of course my mother took it and washed them in the delicates cycle. I said after the bedding was. Finished drying I was going to put my coats and scarves in the dryer so they could dry. She said they were going to air dry and be put outside tomorrow to hang out in the morning to finish drying because putting them in the dryer would shrunk the coats. I have put my coats in the dryer before and they never shrunk. My mother said if I put my coats in the dryer and they were not hanging up in the morning she would trash them and get rid of them and I would lose two coats. My family is crazy . They are controlling and critical when it comes to me and my clothing. They always have something to say about how I am dressed and accuse me of having clothes that stink because of me wearing so much at a time and overdressing in warm layers in the summer. Usually the summers are not very hot and I am easily cold so you know what I dress warmly and bundled up. They don’t leave my stuff alone like they should. This is what. Happens when I rely on my parents for financial support and psychological needs I have control freak parents who don’t mind their own business and have to nitpick on my clothing and make rude comments. And my attire does not.stink. My sister says my robe smelled even if I recently washed it. Everything according to my family stinks. My sister was shocked at how I was dressed today even though she knows me well enough because she thought I was dressed for winter or autumn. It was only 77-80 degrees at around 1pm and got really chilly by 4:00-4:30pm only 73 degrees according to weatherbug.com and tonight was only in the 55-60 degree range which is nippy.( this was yesterday.) I’m tired of my family and their reactions to my clothing. I’m tired of my mom taking my clothing and she said if it smells it’s going to wash and that’s it. Where do they get the sense of smell that they think everything of mine stinks even stuff I just washed. Are they developing. Hallucinations and smelling things that aren’t there? And so what if I wear two fleece robes over my pajamas to stay warm instead of one robe? Why does everything I do have to be a big deal with my family? This is just giving me an incentive. To develop skills to take care of myself because I shouldn’t have to put up with this shit at almost 33 years old. Curses having mental illnesses and falling behind on developmental milestones of adulthood. I may not be able to leave my parents house. For four to five years because the wait for subsidized housing is forever. Housing that I can afford. I might be on supplemental security income for a few years. My mother said to be realistic I am not going to bring home $100,000 dollars ( pre tax). And I want to go back to school for an English degree first but my mom says she’s not paying for it. I didn’t expect my parents to pay for it when they are still paying back my student loans from ten years ago. I need grants and scholarships. And I also need to show my parents I can start and finish something like my proofreading and editing. Courses or my visual design and web development courses. ( from five to seven/eight years ago) if I finished my proofreading and editing courses and did the writing courses and then finished visual design and web development. Courses I could make enough money for a part time job and go back to school and elevate my existing career path with a bachelors. And masters degree. My parents suggested I train in one course at a time in a hands. On certificate program. At my local community college my dad will pay for in person not online school. I prefer to do programs online home study and distance learning. I have shaken my parents faith in me to get anything done because of my past mistakes. I need to finish my online courses from years ago and get whatever hurdle is blocking me from getting the content and final exams so I can pass the classes and develop skills for some work experience. The Massachusetts rehabilitation. Commission and people incorporated were no help in finding me a job placement that was flexible and remote and in a field I would excel in. I did career and personality assessments and Irene Rodrigues up a report , but there was no follow up from Joseph Fernandes my counselor at mass rehab. I should have just taken the $7500 dollars on offer and gone back to school with it that would have been more productive. The catch would be it would have to a school in Massachusetts. I remember specifically saying for a job I would not work holidays or weekends to Irene Rodrigues when she asked during my assessments.
Back to my parents, my mom had no right to take my coats and scarves and wash them without my. Permission. My day read my conversation. With one of my friends I was texting the other day and took the phone from my hands . Their attitude is it’s my phone and my house if you don’t like it too bad. I often got threatened with find somewhere else to live if you don’t. Like it here but I can’t afford anywhere else to live. My mom just threatened to give up on me soon because I wasn’t taking. Care of my health and make me a ward of the state. What then. I’ll get put in a group home or state run facility. Today my case manager from the department of mental health came and asked me some questions and wanted to talk about different services DMH offered. Her name was Maha. My parents and sister did it again bringing up my clothing choices and I wanted to strangle. Them for it. It’s not a big deal so stop making it a big deal. Maha mentioned I was sweating which I was only because I felt angry and attacked. Today was only 75-78 degrees. At most and it is chilly. My parents have the air conditioning. On in the house. I only open the windows when it’s 75 degrees or higher and today was on the borderline. And turn on the air conditioning when it is in the 90s. I’m in the house and wearing fleece lined joggers with thick socks and a long sleeve Henley and two thick sweater jacket fleeces to keep warm in my house. I don’t know how people can wear shorts bare legs or just bare sleeves in this weather. It feels more like autumn than summer time.. I want my family and random people to stop being rude and making comments on my clothing or how warm I must be . If I was hot, I wouldn’t be wearing the warm sweaters and pants, skirts or dresses with warm tights or leggings underneath, jackets, and scarves and warm socks with lightweight boots or sheepskin lined ugg moccasins shoes. Under 75 degrees, I I wear thermals, sheepskin lined Ugg boots, warm sweaters and winter coats, corduroy pants, warmly lined socks, thick warm scarves, warmers and warm hats, vests, handwarmers, and if it’s not summertime gloves etc. I’m sick of my clothes being an issue and I’m not going to change my clothes to get my parents and sister off my back and to stop having made comments on my apparel and accessories. It’s. Beyond ridiculous. I have to change being able to take care of myself so I can live independently or at least semi independently with services from department of mental health. Just my luck I have depression, anxiety, ptsd, and schizophrenia. And the day program run by corrigsn health center is too damn early. One a structured program starting at 9 am or a drop in one at 11am. I don’t think I need the day program and I wonder if I am making a huge mistake getting involved with the department of mental health. They can help me with applications for housing and other stuff and give me a peer support specialist. Why couldn’t I have just been fully. Functional on my own . Maha said I don’t qualify for assisted living because of my age.i don’t know if it’s the same thing as independent living or supportive housing for those with disabilities. I’m definitely not looking into a group home situation where I would lose my freedom. Most of department of mental health clients are struggling without family supports and need immediate access to help with food, shelter, and utilities so my situation is considerably different.my parents also hope talking through with a psychiatrist helps me with my clothes. Nothing is going to change my clothing choices so they better stop with this nonsense. I’m probably eligible for pt1 transportation which is non-emergency transportation to and from medical, dental, mental health, and other appointments with mass health because I have a a documented disability. My parents had to sign forms because they are my medical and legal guardians due to incapacitation on my part. My life turned out all wrong. It’s also my fault for not motivating myself to make life better for myself and concentrating on my courses to help me pass and find work. Mass ability only helped me with south coast independent living apply for the disability benefits. They didn’t help me with people incorporated to find a fulfilling flexible job. They were of no use to me in helping find a career.