Family resentment

@Fairydust Lol sorry but who the fuck will i blame lol, not going to bw the pope is it, they are oarents and made the move lol. My resentment towards my parents doesnt mean i dont have responsibilties over my choices and decisions. But ill play along to what you said, yes i do its my life choice it is why i wouldnt go back now as i have 4 kids and wouldnt drag them to europe like my dickhead parents did when they had an amazing life in italy already and gave that up. So i guess im much more responsible than my parents are as i actually think about my kids.

@NeptuneAscending

You sound very bitter.

@Fairydust 100 percent i am and to be honest cant or wont ever foegive them for a selfish act. I just need to find a way on how to deal with those emotions and feelings.

@NeptuneAscending
Why did they move? Maybe they really did see an opportunity for a better life, what if your life had turned out worse in Italy.

@Fairydust And also that is mainly why i am pissed off, my mum did not agree to the move my dad decided himself, my mum said we dis nit need to find a better life elshwere when we had an income of around 50k a year, and that was in the 80s, my dads own business and my mums at home working for a law firm. A nice house by the coast, my brothers and sister had family and friends.

@NeptuneAscending

You should just accept it and move on, it happened the way it did.
You wouldn’t have your children if you hadn’t have moved, maybe instead of concentrating on what they did. Think of the positives that did happen.

@Fairydust Yes there is a chance that mt life would have turned out worse but at least i would be going through life, up or down in a country where i was born and miss so much. I dont feel at home unfortunately but i cannot leave my kids side and i sure as hell wouodnt drag them to italy when they have their friends and life here in the uk.

@NeptuneAscending

Have you asked your kids? Seems you’re just stuck on blaming.

@Fairydust I did ask them, they all said no, i askes them because their feelinhs come first now, and you priorities that as a parent, unlike my parents. Plus i have not taught them any Italian, they cant read, write nor speak it like i do. My kids are of various ages youngest 8 and the eldest 16, so they would struggle to adapt to the life in Italy. Their education is here, their friends is here even if they did say yes.

@NeptuneAscending

You were 3 years old, seems like this is a way deeper issue than blaming them for moving here.

@Fairydust It doesnt matter if i was 1 year old, 5 or 17. I have spenr most of my childhood and summers in Italy with my uncles and aunties, cousins ect, spending around 2 months a time. What i am saying is the culture, the place of the uk has never resonated with me, and ive always felt at home in Italy, why ? Because 99 percent of my family live there, and spent alot of my childhood there.

@Fairydust There is no other deeper issue, maybe maybe because i have a british accent and pisses me off eachtime someone says you are more british than you are Italian, really gets on my nerves, so i giess that is the issue. And then when i go to italy they say im more british than i am Italian and pisses me off even more as that is coming from Italians, i have always wanted to fit in in Italy, and be accepted as an Italian, but i know that can never happen due to growing up in England, and that hurts the most as i am Italian with an Italian passport, speak, write and read Italian fluently,but not good enough because i wasnt raised there, so eachtime they comment on me being to english, the more the hatred goes towards my parents. I guess thats why

@NeptuneAscending
You shouldn’t really care what people think of your accent, it’s life and part of who you are.
Life’s too short to dwell on stuff like that, you are Italian and that’s what matters,

My mums Scottish, lived in England from the age of 4, her parents moved, she has an English accent, she’s Scottish, can’t let that define who you are.
You know and that’s all that matters.

It’s all trivial at the end of the day, you don’t want to let it have a negative effect on your life, your kids life, if you feel bitter towards them for moving you. Your kids will pick up in it and that’s not healthy for them.