Birthday card

So we haven't heard from the kids mother since Nov. Not a text, phone call or anything to check on them.

Today i was looking in the mail and there was a card in the mail. It's for my daughter from their mother.

I opened it and it says

Happy 8th birthday it had a cat with a silly poem

Sorry i missed your birthday
Hope it was fun.
Love mom
There is 8 dollars in the card.

First she's turning 11
Second her birthday is Friday

So what do I do. Do i give her the card or not.

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cherryxblossom

Oh man…that is hard. I do believe,
You should absolutely give your daughter the card. It’s better for her to know her mom was thinking of her and made some sort of effort. It could hurt her more down the road to know you withheld it from her. I’d be SUPER tempted to alter the card and add $3, but I don’t know if that’s wise…

LilMissAnonyMOUSE · F

I totally agree with the comment of cherryxblossom. Her mother may ask her if she received it and will make a drama out of it if you don't give her the card. Who knows, your daughter may even correct her mother's error and tell her she's 11, not 8. Although you may want to do it to avoid their being hurt, I think there is no way to hide from or protect your children from finding out her lack of parenting skills, children are smart, they will figure it out.Keep up the good work👍

Mamapolo2016 · F

Give her the card and try to point out positives. "She thought of you. She loves you."

At least she made a small effort.

Pinkstarburst

Yes, you give her the card. You shouldn’t have opened it to begin with. Even if there were errors in it, your daughter deserves to open her own mail and form her own opinions of her mom. If you don’t give her the card she will assume her mom didn’t acknowledge her at all.

Cigarguy101 · 41-45, M

@Pinkstarburst my daughter is 10 of course im going to open her mail first. What if she'd written something horrible like she has never coming back and it was because of my daughter. Why wouldn't i protect my daughter from that. My parents have said hurtful things to me and it doesn't go away. I wasn't going to risk that. Their mother didn't acknowledge them or Thanksgiving or Christmas or even valentine's day so she wouldn't think twice about not hearing from her on her birthday.

Pinkstarburst

@Cigarguy101 I’m sorry her mom is a deadbeat. Perhaps opening it together and being supportive and explaining the words inside the card would have been an option. Either way, she should know about receiving it.

Starcrossed · 41-45, F

Is their mother perhaps on mental crisis?

Maybe get a different similar card for 11 yr olds signed from "mom". I wouldn't give the 8 yr old one.

Cigarguy101 · 41-45, M

@Starcrossed i am not sure what is going on with her. I haven't talked to her in months. The card is post marked from Florida. Her parents live there.

Lyfis2live

No point being a wall. Let all be free to know what is for them or not.

BarbossasHusband · 36-40, M

Let her have it. I agree with the other comments

Spoiledbrat · F

Yes

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