Since i have not heard from my x in almost a month im filings for full custody of my kids. She's abandoned them. She didn't care enough to call text or check on them even for Christmas. I really don't know what use to do.
Yes I agree. If you have had no contact from her for almost a month then she is unworthy to call herself a mother. Follow through and start the ball rolling. Write down everything she says, when she does eventually reconnect. You need to keep a record of all her misgivings regarding her children. She seems to be playing you for a fool and the children, as well as yourself will suffer.