I'm probably heading for divorce... I feel so empty

Hold on. I'm going to try to find you something in my notes that will help you. This marriage can be saved if you're both willing to work at it and if you really love each other, you will.

Try to work on it since Both of You share The Kids.
It is saddening to read such feelers.
God bless You Both with the needed Love & ways to keep realising the same.

Imp: At times, head proves to be the biggest impediment in the matter of Heart.
Stop overthinking!

Stop crying about it on here... and go show your wife why she fell in love with you in the first place.

Chin up! As promised, there's hope and help around the corner, for your marriage. I hope you won't sluff this off, but really give it a chance, because it does work.

https://similarworlds.com/relationships/marriage/4519050-Do-you-want-to-save-your-marriage-You-have-to

I'm sorry for your heartache.

Get that argument documented.

Edit- I meant agreement

Just remember that the vast majority of people are lying when they say their marriage vows. They have zero intention of staying married. Only a very small number of couples stay married for life.

Here is a link to a photo essay about couples who got divorced =

“The Grass Is Not Always Greener”: 30 People Who Regret Getting Divorced Share What Happened
https://www.boredpanda.com/divorced-people-share-regrets/

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If she LOVES you, this is really weird.

I spent two years in marriage counseling trying to save my marriage with the ex, who very obviously didn't love me and didn't want a relationship.

I HOPE the two of you do the same.

@Namesaresohard You are at a very dangerous time in your life. For your own sanity and the lives of everyone else, simply choose to walk away. Don't get in a fight with her over child custody. Tell your kids you love them but that you won't get in a nasty child custody fight. Tell them that when they become 18-years-old that you can have a relationship if that's what they want. Don't force the issue. Be prepared to pay some hefty child support, which will piss you off if you don't get to spend some meaningful time with the kids.

You read about such cases everyday. Don't become one.

She doesn't know what she wants....once a women says that, it's done deal. If you stay you are doomed anyway. She doesn't want you so be it. Protect your interests now. Better hired a good lawyer.

Take time apart. Live apart for a month...I guess...and see 🤔🤔🤔 sort of “take time to think”... You sound like you have been hurt...

Well if you friend zoned your wife no wonder she wants out?

Do you use any substance, drugs or alcohol?

I can't really comment, because I don't know enough about your situation. My divorce was 19 years ago this month. Whatever it is, you'll get through it. Like you, I married my "best friend" too, didn't mean jack shit in the end. She became a mortal enemy. I hung in there for about 6 months, got nothing for the effort except "I want out!", so one day I gave her what she was asking for and never looked back .

Things suck now, but....you're getting your life back. And you have no idea what's on the other side. You're not ready to hear this now, but....you might end up happier than you were when everything was good with her. I know I am, and I'm ready to walk down the aisle again.

I can't give you any great advice about your marriage because every situation is different, as are the people involved.
What I can tell you is to put every effort into seeing your children often and spending quality time with them. Too often, men tend to quit putting an effort in after a while and make excuses why they don't spend time with their children. I am speaking from experience and how it made my children feel.

I really hope it works out for you 💖

Big hugs time for heart to heart talks