Child support

I’m feeling somewhat strong. “I am finally coming to terms with not wanting my ex husbands child support. Mostly because he sees it as helping me and not helping his child. I find that I feel obligated to him. I think I will feel more free of him, if and when I give up child support “

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OogieBoogie · F

Can i be blunt?

Who cares how HE sees it.

You get to choose how you react to his opinions and actions .

He knows hes baiting you by having this opinion .

Remember , you are your own person, your child has a right to this monetary support.
Even if you put it straight into a savinf account for your kid, and dont use it.

Just sayin'🤷‍♀️

Mindful · 56-60, F

@OogieBoogie it’s been painful emotionally but after 10 years of small income increases, I am not destitute. And I did want the divorce. And I don’t know….I want to feel good about myself and not be the woman he can be the “victim” of suffering.

I have a friend who feels used abused and only hatred towards his ex. In his case it MIGHT be merited… but I can’t be THAT woman in my ex husbands life, now that I can be free of his income after my raises.