Child support

I’m trying to do it on my own, but thank you. He will never ever see it as “for the kids”@Fukfacewillie

@Mindful That is his view and an advantage for him to see it that way.

He seems to be controlling you in a way and not letting you be yourself.

In substance, it is money the Community, through the Government, has made him make available for you to support your children.

It is what you see it as that is important.

Don't let him control you.

@Zeusdelight thanks but they do. And I know you don’t know me but I don’t have the will to live so I Maoist definitely do t want to fight this. I’m have been depressed my entire life. Now I am experiencing jealousy and anger. It is unhealthy for my daughter to see me this way. And unhealthy for me to take my anger out on her with harsh words of disdain for the ex wife.

@Mindful Ok, remember then that as a person with depression, as I am, sometimes our thoughts are a little tangled and what seems sensible is actually not. This is especially so when other strong feelings are around as is your case now.

What I now suggest is that you talk this idea out with someone in real life who can reflect back to you what you are saying.

If it fits after that well and good.

@Zeusdelight thank you I really appreciate your wise advice. I also am very proud of myself that —both before him and after him— I have earned enough to make my own living, and I will continue to be able to do so. I might not get her big presents for holidays, but her dad will , and fortunately he will pay all her medical, dental, and school meals. And extra curricular. He’s not a complete louse. But he doesn’t want to pay a dime more for basic needs. In some ways all that is very generous. And in a way, whatever I do to support her on top of that really will be MY doing so. My current boyfriend says he will not let us go hungry either. :-) because I have a salary (albeit half of what his is) I can support myself just enough—as long as I have a job. I’m pretty sure both he and his wife will pay her college or help her along those ways.