I Am Getting a Divorce

Well it’s finally happening and divorce proceedings are going ahead.

She says she’s moving out but I don’t see that happening, besides her sister is on holiday at the moment. Tomorrow is another day.

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GeniUs · 56-60, M

A solicitor will advise neither of you to leave the family home but it can get acrimonious very quickly. I left as I couldn't bear to live with her a moment longer, some weeks later I went to pick up the kids on Friday only to be told they were all going to her mother's (it was my weekend) and she shut the door and started packing. I went back to my car and phoned her mother to find out what was going on, 'it had all been sorted for weeks, you knew about it etc', said her mother. I went home. On the following Monday my solicitor phoned me and told me I had been reported to the police for being aggressive and wasn't to return to the family home again. I explained what happened and my solicitor said, 'it will be easier for everybody if you just don't go back.'
Recounting that has made me angry but if it can help anybody else make decisions about their futures (or even just entertain somebody it was worth it.)

Miram · 31-35, F

I have known someone who is like that (your ex). She made false accusations, he was in jail for days and still he forgave her and now they are back again together.

GeniUs · 56-60, M

@Miram I don't know how anybody could do that(go back), it was hard enough with the threat hanging over me and a person only has to make the accusation, afterwards they can just take it back and say they were confused or tired or misunderstood. I understand the legal viewpoint (do what is easiest) but it doesn't help the person being accused at all.

Miram · 31-35, F

@GeniUs Yes, he is dependent on her on many levels. 20 years relationship. I tried helping him break away, dated him for two years and broke up when I found out he was back to drinking again and slept with his ex(her) while drunk.. He was not the best man out there but he's not as manipulative as her.

I am sorry you were treated that way by someone you loved once.