A solicitor will advise neither of you to leave the family home but it can get acrimonious very quickly. I left as I couldn't bear to live with her a moment longer, some weeks later I went to pick up the kids on Friday only to be told they were all going to her mother's (it was my weekend) and she shut the door and started packing. I went back to my car and phoned her mother to find out what was going on, 'it had all been sorted for weeks, you knew about it etc', said her mother. I went home. On the following Monday my solicitor phoned me and told me I had been reported to the police for being aggressive and wasn't to return to the family home again. I explained what happened and my solicitor said, 'it will be easier for everybody if you just don't go back.'
Recounting that has made me angry but if it can help anybody else make decisions about their futures (or even just entertain somebody it was worth it.)
